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Considering no contact with family? Some things worth reflecting on first

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Here are my reflections on having read the article published in The Guardian last week. Going no contact with family is a big deal. It’s often sensationalised within media or films as being incredibly dramatic. Doors slam, voices raised, silence for years. Big emotional reunions. But in my experience, becoming estranged isn’t generally speaking something […]

Signs of childhood emotional neglect in adults: Is this what’s been going on?

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Signs of childhood emotional neglect in adults: Is this what’s been going on? You’re doing fine. So why doesn’t it feel like it? On paper, life looks pretty good. You’re holding things together, running a house, showing up for everyone, probably succeeding in ways other people notice even if you don’t. But there’s something that […]

Parenting Neurodivergent Kids is a marathon, not a moment.

Marathons, not moments. Parenting neurodivergent kids is no walk in the park, right? Any parenting is hard. But parenting neurodivergent kids can often be something else. And it’s something that comes with a heavy dose of feeling isolated. Feeling hidden. There can often be a level of shame. As though you’re doing something wrong.  I […]

Unsure you experienced childhood trauma? Here are 5 Signs You Might See In Adulthood

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Are you unsure you experienced childhood trauma? You might hear that alot. Perhaps you’re considering whether some of your behaviours or feelings might be signs that your childhood is still affecting you?For some, they know their childhood was traumatic, unusual or unstable. For others, it can come as a much later realisation or curiosity that […]

The Truth About Self-Care (It’s Not What Instagram Says It Is)

What is the truth about self-care? Let’s be honest: mainstream self-care advice has become… well, a little bland. Scroll through social media and you’ll see perfect flat-lays of bubble baths, beige candles, curated skincare routines, and luxury products. Not only do you need to practice self-care, but you also need to use 15 different hashtags […]

What to do when you get push back on your boundaries.

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So we’re going to talk today about what you can do when you get push back on your boundaries. I want you to start with acknowledging how hard it can be actually to start setting boundaries when it’s new, it’s really hard too.   For the people around you, the fact that you’re setting boundaries is […]

What Happens In Your First Counselling Session?

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 Hello there, I just want to say I’m so glad you’re here. If you’re reading this post, it would make sense that you might be wondering what happens in your first counselling session. Taking that first step to seek counselling can be both exciting and nerve-wracking, especially if you’re not in a good place or […]

Private Therapy Practice Coming Soon!

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With several years of study over, The Private Therapy Practice will be coming soon! I am an NCPS member and work in a person-centred way, and following several different placements will be embarking on private practice, working online and face-to-face in Essex. I will be available face-to-face for counselling in rooms in Southend-On-Sea and Rochford. […]