Breaking Free from Toxic Relationship Patterns

What are toxic relationship patterns? A toxic relationship is one that consistently undermines your sense of well-being, happiness and/or safety. You may find yourself in a pattern of relationships that affect your emotional and mental health. Signs of toxic relationships are relationships that: Identify Patterns It can help to identify toxic relationship patterns by taking […]

7 Reasons to have counselling – before you hit a crisis point.

Reasons to have counselling – there can be so many. But a conversation recently struck me, after talking with some friends. That many people don’t think of it as something you do unless you’ve ‘reached the end of your tether’. And I thought this was quite sad. Like many people, you may not have considered […]

What is Self-Care really?

What is self-care – REALLY? The term self-care gets thrown around a lot. “You should do some self-care!” – when you feel stressed, or burnt out. “Maybe you aren’t getting enough self-care” – when you feel like you never have time for yourself, or spend all of your energy looking after other people. But what […]

Self-soothing techniques to help with anxiety, stress and feeling overwhelmed

Learning self-soothing techniques to help with anxiety can help prevent feeling overwhelmed, simultaneously grounding you when you need a moment of calm. Anyone can use them! Struggling with anxiety and stress is never fun – however, it can be managed and you’re not alone in feeling this way. Many people have feelings of high anxiety, […]

How long will you have to have counselling for?

  Knowing how long will you have to have counselling for is tricky! It’s something that isn’t spoken about a lot in counselling. I think this is highlighted more recently within the UK, especially when people go to their GP for counselling. When you want to have some support for your mental health there are […]

Seasonal Affective Disorder AKA Winter Blues: 5 Ways to Manage Your Mood

Are you worried you might have Seasonal Affective Disorder? Hello, lovely readers of Southend-on-Sea, Essex! As a counsellor and mental health professional – and human! I understand that the winter months can bring about a sense of gloom and melancholy. The nights get darker earlier and it’s typical to hear complaints about the weather! Everything […]

The Courage to Say ‘No’: Navigating Boundaries in Your 30s

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Hello there, Do you want to find the courage to Say ‘No’? Have you found yourself saying “yes” when you really wanted to say “no”? Do you prioritize others’ needs over your own, only to feel exhausted and overwhelmed? You’re not alone. Many people in their 30s struggle with the art of setting boundaries. But […]

5 Things You Can Do Before Counselling Sessions

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As a person-centred counsellor, I wanted to share 5 things you can do before counselling sessions. It might be the first time you’ve seen a counsellor, or perhaps you’ve had therapy before. Counselling is a collaborative process between the therapist and the client. I feel you are the expert in your experiences. Not me! However, […]

How To Go From People-Pleasing at Work to Boundaried and Brilliant

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Are you people-pleasing at work and ending up frustrated that you still have mountains of tasks, whilst others are swanning off for an early lunch? Do you end up taking on more and more responsibility but the rewards are lacking? Does saying ‘No’ to your manager or co-worker fill you with dread or guilt? If […]

What Happens In Your First Counselling Session?

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 What Happens In Your First Counselling Session: A Journey Towards Self-Discovery and Healing Hello there, I’m so glad you’re here! You might be wondering what happens in your first counselling session. Taking that first step to seek counselling can be both exciting and nerve-wracking, especially if you’re not in a good place, or struggling with […]