Being honest with yourself in therapy: why it’s scary, and why it’s worth it
Being honest with yourself in therapy: why it’s scary, and why it’s worth it This blog post came about after conversations with clients and a therapy session of my own. I wanted to explore and reflect on how being honest with yourself (and your therapist) is both scary and ultimately helpful. Being honest with yourself […]
Shame and not feeling good enough: what it is, how it arrives, and what to do next
Shame and not feeling good enough: what it is, how it arrives, and what to do next Hello, Shame! A lecturer of mine once told me, “Shame is the most destructive feeling of all”, and it stuck with me. I have sat with that expression and held it in mind whilst exploring my own shame […]
Struggling to leave an unhealthy relationship? There might be a reason you’re still there
Struggling to leave an unhealthy relationship? There might be a reason you’re still there Why CEN Makes It So Hard to Leave You know something isn’t right. You’ve been struggling to leave an unhealthy relationship. You know it’s not healthy. You’re not happy, you don’t feel heard, and if you’re honest with yourself, you haven’t […]
Parental Estrangement – How can therapy help?
Parental Estrangement – How can therapy help? Parental Estrangement – How can therapy help? If you are estranged from your parents or family, or are considering estrangement, it can be an incredibly difficult time. You may have already gone through periods of misunderstanding. You may have a tense, or difficult relationship. There are many different […]
Will a therapist tell me what to do?
Will a therapist tell me what to do? Breaking down the misconception that therapists tell you what to do. Are you making late-night internet searches of “will a therapist tell me what to do?” and wondering how can you talk to someone if they’re going to push you one way or another? Maybe you’re hesitant […]
Do you need therapy? Honest advice from a therapist
Wondering if you need therapy, or just a complete overhaul of your life? A holiday or something else?! Sometimes it can be hard to figure out what would be most helpful. This blog post is for you if you’re googling for answers, trying to figure out the next step. You’re looking for some reassurance that […]
What is attachment style, and why does it matter in relationships?
What is attachment style, and why would you want to know yours? If you’ve got relationships with any other humans, it can be a helpful starting point to understand your own behaviours a bit better. If you’re struggling to understand why your relationships seem to follow the same patterns, and you’ve noticed everything you scroll […]
Are you still trying to figure out the relationship with your mother?
How our relationship with our mothers shapes us as adults The first chapter of your life story probably influences the way you love, fight, and trust in relationships today. This blog post will look specifically at your relationship with your mother and how it can impact you today. If you find yourself with a voice […]
Struggling to trust your therapist? What can you do?
So you’re struggling to trust your therapist? I wonder if it can sometimes feel difficult to discuss. How do you tell someone ‘safe’ that you don’t feel safe?! Because of that, I wanted to write about it here. It’s definitely something that lots of clients feel, and only some will bring it up. If you’ve […]
Millennial burnout causes – why it often has roots in childhood
Are you over 30, and finding yourself in burnout cycles that seem to keep coming, no matter how hard you work at the ‘work-life balance’? Millennial burnout is becoming more and more common, so let’s look at what might be causing it in your life, and what you can do about it. I want you […]