Transactional analysis injunctions and childhood emotional neglect: the messages we carry
The messages we carry: How TA injunctions show up in childhood emotional neglect In transactional analysis, injunctions are the early messages we internalise about who we are, what we’re allowed to do, and how much space we’re entitled to take up. Developed by Robert and Mary Goulding, these twelve core injunctions aren’t usually spoken out […]
Feeling lonely in a relationship? How childhood experiences might be part of the picture
Feeling lonely in a relationship? How childhood experiences might be part of the picture When a good relationship still doesn’t feel like enough Most of us go into relationships, and into parenthood, with hopes. Sometimes those hopes are rooted in the gaps we felt in our own childhoods, the things we wanted more of and […]
Childhood experiences affecting you as an adult: why the weeds always grow back
Your childhood doesn’t stay in the past. Here’s why. Imagine your inner world as a garden. Over the years, weeds have grown, the kind that take root early, quietly, and run deep. And at some point, you did what most of us do: you covered them over. Added some topsoil. Planted some flowers. And for […]
Shame and not feeling good enough: what it is, how it arrives, and what to do next
Shame and not feeling good enough: what it is, how it arrives, and what to do next Hello, Shame! A lecturer of mine once told me, “Shame is the most destructive feeling of all”, and it stuck with me. I have sat with that expression and held it in mind whilst exploring my own shame […]
Childhood emotional neglect and parental burnout: why parenting can feel so much harder for you
Childhood emotional neglect and parental burnout: Why parenting can feel so much harder for you You’re trying so hard. So why does it still feel like it’s not enough? You’re aware of the patterns. You can see where they came from, and you’re doing everything you can to make sure your children don’t carry the […]
Parental Estrangement – How can therapy help?
Parental Estrangement – How can therapy help? Parental Estrangement – How can therapy help? If you are estranged from your parents or family, or are considering estrangement, it can be an incredibly difficult time. You may have already gone through periods of misunderstanding. You may have a tense, or difficult relationship. There are many different […]
People-pleaser isn’t a personality trait – it could be a hangover from childhood.
Do you feel like you’re a ‘bit of a people-pleaser’ yet you can’t seem to stop it? This post might be for you if you find yourself explaining, “I’m a bit of a people-pleaser”. You might try to let people know there’s a reason why you’re burnt out, and can’t seem to stop taking more […]
Are you still trying to figure out the relationship with your mother?
How our relationship with our mothers shapes us as adults The first chapter of your life story probably influences the way you love, fight, and trust in relationships today. This blog post will look specifically at your relationship with your mother and how it can impact you today. If you find yourself with a voice […]
What does healing from childhood trauma actually look like?
Healing from childhood trauma – What happens when you start listening to your inner child? Healing from childhood trauma can be messy – it can take time, but it’s possible to live a life with meaning, purpose and enjoyment. If you’re googling childhood trauma late at night, this post should help you explore the process […]
Why do I feel numb? A therapist explains…
“Why do I feel numb?” – If you’ve been trying to figure out where the hell your feelings went and why you can’t feel them – read on! If you have been wondering why you don’t feel anything beyond ‘good’ or ‘not so good’, this blog post will help you to uncover where the spectrum […]